IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP AT HIGH RISK FOR AN AFFAIR?
Ever notice everytime the Media gives attention to the topic of Infidelity, many couples are internally asking the question of how they would cope with such a situation? Relationships can survive infidelity, if both individuals agree and have a desire to do so. It won't be easy, and maybe that's the reason many choose not to forgive and forget. It goes without saying, that it hurts and it can and may make you feel helpless.
You will experience anger, tears, and depression. Maybe even feelings of wishing your partner were dead like a friend of mine presently. it takes time to heal, as well as to forgive. You must make a decision to love, to forgive, forget and to be happy. Perhaps the biggest step of all, is the decision to TRUST again. No doubt this will certainly take a long time of recovery and adjustments, with a new outlook and that also means no garbage dumping, and this will again take time, courage, as well as commitment.
Some feelings that are prominent when a couple experiences the accusation of infidelity in their relationship include:
shame, guilt, blame, anger, hurt, disappointment, rage, embarassment, forgiveness, jealousy, lust, resentment, denial and mis-trust.
It would be very easy for me to say your relationship can survive this onslaught of feelings. ut i'm not the one feeling it! You are! So let me put it this way. Some relationships and even marriages are not meant to be saved. If the infidelity is one of many symptons of abuse in your relationship, or if your partner is a serial cheater, it may be time to throw in the towel.
But before you do, I'd like to ask you a question. Is Your Relationship at High Risk for an Affair? I'll answer for you. Yes it is!!!! Just like most all relationships. The problem is that most couples don't have a clue how it begins and or why. It usually begins as an Emotional Affair. So what the bloody hell is an Emotional Affair?
An Emotional Affair is a secret relationship that invloves intimate sharing with some one other than your lover or partner. Believe me when I tell you, if a person is no longer confiding thoughts and feelings with his/her partner the individual is either in an emotional affair or ready for one. It's better explained, if I convey that the consequences of an emotional affair is the sense you've been deceived, betrayed and lied to, would you beleive me? Maybe not if you've not yet experience it.
If you're concerned that your partner may be guilty of this, you should get to know well the wrning signs. There are serveral warning signs that your Relationship is at High Risk for an Affair of every kind and you should know the signs to avoid disaster in your relationship.
1. Your partner starts to withdraw from you
2. Your partner is preoccupied and daydream about their friend more and more each day and does not
appear to be available mentally when you are speaking
3. Your partner seems to have no interest in being intimate with you physically and emotionally
4. Your partner spends less time with you and more time working or away from home
5. If questioned whether anything is going on, the reply is always " We're just friends" or "It's just a friend"
6. Your partner seeks time alone with their new friend and without your presence
7. Thoughts and feelings are shared mostly with the new friend
8. Comes home with a gift for the new friend, and not for you and explains away your hurt feelings
9. You hear that the friend understands better than you the needs and problems of your partner
10. The friendship is kept a secret from you until you find out
No matter what anyone tells you affairs of the heart come in many different forms, and they get easier as technology improves. The question you should ask yourself is whether or not you want to live your life and relationship in fear.
People will always find a way to do what they want when lust, love, and desire are in control. Don't get caught up by repayingEVIL with EVIL! Just relax and let things flow, and always create a table if needed for some good healthy communication.
Wanna Know More? Need to Know More? Click here to get information or for ordering Rone de Beauvoir's groundbreaking nw book It's Only Dinner " Dining for Love Romance and Relationships" www.amazon.com
and the new ebook Decadent Meals and Desserts at www.mobipocket.com
Rone de Beauvoir is a Chef and Author who has lived in 22 countries around and the world and the owner of Catering by Rone and Founder of Catering by Rone Foundation which provides free flight support for children with Cancer to their medical facility.
Embrace and Enjoy!
Rone de Beauvoir
You will experience anger, tears, and depression. Maybe even feelings of wishing your partner were dead like a friend of mine presently. it takes time to heal, as well as to forgive. You must make a decision to love, to forgive, forget and to be happy. Perhaps the biggest step of all, is the decision to TRUST again. No doubt this will certainly take a long time of recovery and adjustments, with a new outlook and that also means no garbage dumping, and this will again take time, courage, as well as commitment.
Some feelings that are prominent when a couple experiences the accusation of infidelity in their relationship include:
shame, guilt, blame, anger, hurt, disappointment, rage, embarassment, forgiveness, jealousy, lust, resentment, denial and mis-trust.
It would be very easy for me to say your relationship can survive this onslaught of feelings. ut i'm not the one feeling it! You are! So let me put it this way. Some relationships and even marriages are not meant to be saved. If the infidelity is one of many symptons of abuse in your relationship, or if your partner is a serial cheater, it may be time to throw in the towel.
But before you do, I'd like to ask you a question. Is Your Relationship at High Risk for an Affair? I'll answer for you. Yes it is!!!! Just like most all relationships. The problem is that most couples don't have a clue how it begins and or why. It usually begins as an Emotional Affair. So what the bloody hell is an Emotional Affair?
An Emotional Affair is a secret relationship that invloves intimate sharing with some one other than your lover or partner. Believe me when I tell you, if a person is no longer confiding thoughts and feelings with his/her partner the individual is either in an emotional affair or ready for one. It's better explained, if I convey that the consequences of an emotional affair is the sense you've been deceived, betrayed and lied to, would you beleive me? Maybe not if you've not yet experience it.
If you're concerned that your partner may be guilty of this, you should get to know well the wrning signs. There are serveral warning signs that your Relationship is at High Risk for an Affair of every kind and you should know the signs to avoid disaster in your relationship.
1. Your partner starts to withdraw from you
2. Your partner is preoccupied and daydream about their friend more and more each day and does not
appear to be available mentally when you are speaking
3. Your partner seems to have no interest in being intimate with you physically and emotionally
4. Your partner spends less time with you and more time working or away from home
5. If questioned whether anything is going on, the reply is always " We're just friends" or "It's just a friend"
6. Your partner seeks time alone with their new friend and without your presence
7. Thoughts and feelings are shared mostly with the new friend
8. Comes home with a gift for the new friend, and not for you and explains away your hurt feelings
9. You hear that the friend understands better than you the needs and problems of your partner
10. The friendship is kept a secret from you until you find out
No matter what anyone tells you affairs of the heart come in many different forms, and they get easier as technology improves. The question you should ask yourself is whether or not you want to live your life and relationship in fear.
People will always find a way to do what they want when lust, love, and desire are in control. Don't get caught up by repayingEVIL with EVIL! Just relax and let things flow, and always create a table if needed for some good healthy communication.
Wanna Know More? Need to Know More? Click here to get information or for ordering Rone de Beauvoir's groundbreaking nw book It's Only Dinner " Dining for Love Romance and Relationships" www.amazon.com
and the new ebook Decadent Meals and Desserts at www.mobipocket.com
Rone de Beauvoir is a Chef and Author who has lived in 22 countries around and the world and the owner of Catering by Rone and Founder of Catering by Rone Foundation which provides free flight support for children with Cancer to their medical facility.
Embrace and Enjoy!
Rone de Beauvoir
